um.... and I continue having no life whatsoever. Curse you shyness!

Rawr, girls like me at school..hot girls..

What do you mean? Ive said rawr for months...

more like a month and a half.

All the girls that like me are juniors

Not really "like" but its all good, they like call to me in the halls and stuff..and want me(and every other freshmen guy) to sit with them at lunch...And some of them are blond

And that's good?

lol, just today, a random girl in my class waved her hair in my face by accident, and i think im allergic of something, cuz i started to sneeze lol, and she laughed and kept doing it, and every time i turned she tried to look innocent -.- people just mess with me sometimes.

I like this girl in my class...but she like hates me now that I said horses are dumb...so yeah...im kinda screw ed with my chances with her

Any ideas?

ideas...make sure she thinks that you

a. were really pissed off that day and you took it out on her and you are sorry
b. had a really bad headache so you were really pissed off that day and you took it out on her and you are sorry
c. actually like horses
d. are allergic which is why you hate horses and that the word hate is an overstatement ant that you would like horses if they didn't give you hives. she can probably understand that and will forgive you.

in all of those WAIT A WHILE BEFORE APPROACHING AGAIN. let nice-guyiness sink in. lol. let her think about what you said for a while. it will work. trust me.

lol...those things are called lying. I try not to do that

I would rather call it "how to hunt down girl you like" than lying , it has better sound Btw what's so bad about horses?
And one more thing - not sharing hobbies and likes/dislikes should be serious problem in any relationship.

Hehe..They're hay-burners

You know that was like 2 years ago?
Technically I hadn't have a GF yet but there was one girl, let's say...close to me, but (that would sound horrible but it's true) fortunatly she lived way too far away from me (like half our country) and as the time pass we find out that we have different hobbyes and so...it didn't happened (hope you get the point ).

I'm pretty pumped. I have liked this girl for like 3 years, we have pretty much been best friends for a long time. I really liked her and decided to tell her how I felt because I was running out of time (it's our senior year). And she didn't know I liked her. Long story short we are going out and I have never been happier!!!

Nate nate nate...what happened to you? xD

I thought it was odd when you changed your relationship status to 'In a Relationship' on facebook

ooooo, TAKE PICTURES!!! hehe

I confused about whatto do for something. This girl i haven't seen in 9 years is a freshmen at my school and i saw her last week at a football game (U.S. football not Scoccer.) We talked alittle but the problem is i can't reconiser her during school. I have a hard time at reconising people unless i know them real well.

my bff ttly ratted me out!!! she actually told the guy i lyk that i lyk him and she had absolyutly no rite!!! and i found out thathe doesnt hate me...im jst 1 of the ppl he pretty much ignores!!! wat am i supposedto do!!! i felt lyk killing my bff when she told me she told him!!!

I'll have a date ! I'll have a date ! I'll have a date !
Hell yeah

Closing your eyes and shuting down your brain before telling her/him works - believe me

Wow... i'm caught up in quite the drama what do you guys think I should do.

My girlfriend had a prior boyfriend before me, he pretty much broke her heart horribly but she still cares for him...he ignored her for several months until just recently when he started advancing on her verbally when he knows we are going out. He has said things like "If I were to come to your house and make out with you what would you do?" She then explained we were going out and he proceeded to say "this is me and you we are talking about."

Now he wants to meet with her today afterschool, and she wants to oblidge. She insists that she only wants to meet him only for the sake of seeing him, and nothing else. She says that nothing will happen and I need to trust her.

I don't know...I hate drama and here I am caught up in the middle of a big drama sandwich. How do you think I should handle this situation? I have tried thus far to act as if it doesn't bother me, and encourage her that I understand how she feels and trus in her decisions.

Ok, she didn't go because she talked to him on the phone and tried telling her I am a man whore, and how he should mean more to her then me...so overall she is pissed at him again.

Dude, you have to go to him first. You have to MAKE him back off. Now, are you bigger than him or the other way around?

I am not at all worried about her physically cheating on me, i am more worried about the mind games that he will play with her. She does still have feelings for him, she has told me this before...I have talked it out with her and she ensures me there is nothing else to worry about.

Judging by what I have heard he tried telling her that he was more important than I, and that ticked her off so therefore she closed the lines of communication with him yet again.

Things seem to be panning out well.

lol, being an Admin of my own message board I attempt to sound as intellectual as possible

But yeh...she is going to see him this next week, but I trust that she won't do anything so I will just have to see what goes down when she does go.

Question 1) Why is she going to visit him?
Question 2) If he's same age as you than just beat his pervy ideas out of him, it's your girlfriend we are talking about afterall.
Question 3) This is thinking question-is your current gf worth fighting for her?

Answers

1. She isn't, he said some rude comments that involved him being in the belief that she was only going to see him to how can I put it..."satisfy" him.

2. He's a few years older than me, I think I could take him but I prefer to keep a clean record while applying for colleges and scholarships

3. My GF means soooooo much to me, if course she is.

You're battling a hard game here Death_to_Varden. You say your Girlfriend still has some "feelings" for this other kid. Even if its just the tiniest little feeling, that could lead to a major problem for yourself and deep sadness maybe. "The roots of evil have the tiniest seeds", thus is the saying that I'm fond of, although it doesn't really fit in with what you're dealoing with, in essence its correct. If it was me, I would first attempt to wipe away that feeling, or else I would be prepared to leave her if she doesn't agree to drop her feelings. After all, the meaning of love is that each is devoted etirely to the other. Third parties could have (and usually do) have an ill effect on a relationship.

One last thing -- resolving to violence is one of the dumbest ways to resolve a problem. It really doesn't solve anything and it is a poor form of conduct. That sort of thing is for idiots and immature people. Never result to violence unless a) you're being attacked b) someone you care for is being harmed in whic you come to their defence.

My advice is only fight this guy if he hurts your GF. Otherwise try to resolve the problem with words.

Puts on Treebeard character:

hoom, hum I'll try not to be hasty. But in my opinion, I think that for a relationship to work those third party feelings have to be wiped away if you know what i mean. however thats my opinion.

i am extreamly confused about this guy!!! theres this guy who i think is really really cute but it turns out hes pretty jerky but i still lyk him...WAT AM I TO DO!!!

Cuteness isn't everything. If he is really big jerk than just let him go otherwise you must learn how to live with it because he won't change

Wow it's guy...


Ok I'm fine with that and it has been very (and I mean VERY) long time since I had to deal with things in less diplomatic way. Though we European peasants with tiny brains have some backbone so Yes you can bother but be prepared to face the consequences

princessArya: I know how do you feel though in my case she isn't my ex but it can make things even worse

That incrase chance to miss "The one"

Exactly,live life the way it comes.

My girlfriend and I just broke up. She has alot going on in her head and she needs to get it straightened out. I understand that, we have seen a lot of drama in our relationship and I am glad to be distanced from it. But I just can't get all those good times out of my head...(I guess liking her for soooo many years has really messed me up)

Life stinks...but oh well it goes on.

my relationships are always wierd.... i broke up w/ som1 like 2 weeks ago, a guy that i really liked asked me out and were doin really good, but my ex is not happy, cause the guy im goin out with now used to be best friends with my ex from like 2 weeks ago.... its soooooooooo complicated.. but i like him more than ever, i like the way it turned out in the end..

*laughs at kerstov* *stops* im going to get introuble for this

i have a relationship problem.

my friend is in love with a guy in california, and she wants to go and visit him. here're my problems. first and formost, though happy am i my friend found love, the guy in question i happen to dispuise with all my heart and soul! and the feeling is mutual. he also is in depresion and probably psycologicaly imbalanced. my friend recently found out that i might be getting a job that pulls in over 1 grand in a 40 hour work week. its 7.50 an hour+ 10% personal net sales. she asked me for 300 dollars in advance so she can go down and visit him. i dont know what to do. if i loan her the money, my parents can check my account and see the withdrawl and know it was me. and if i dont, she finds money elsewhere and goes anyway. do i give her the money and let her go with a promis to me she'll come back, or do i not give her the money and hope this whole thing blows over? oh, and when she gives her word, she keeps it, no matter what, she has yet to break her promisses. HELP!!!

i personally wouldnt loan money to someone other than my family or my bf (who ive been with for almost 4 years and we live together) so i wouldnt do it i dont know that is just my opinion sorry not much help at all

I say don't loan her the money, Im sorry but if you don't aprove of the guy then that is reason enough to nor loan the money.
If I got that wrong then corect me.
And yeah what Red said why if she would get the money somewhere else?"

I dont know. maybe i just want to be sure she'll come back. at least with MY money, she has a debt that needs paying, and i can get her to promis to come back if i give it to her.

yeah well just because u make her promise does not mean that she will i have trusted someone who i thought was my best friend and she ended up stealing money and ohter things from me so unless u write up a contract and if she does not pay u can take her to court but to me that is too much hassle and not worth it

*spoken quietly* just because a friend burned you, doesnt mean my friend will burn me. my friend is like a third sister to me, and she wont bite the hand that feeds her, because she knows that hand will hit back. i dont know your friend, but i know mine, and i guess i already know the answer to my problem. so never mind.

well i was just saying that it was also my best firend who lived a few houses down and that made me realize people dont always show there true colors right away taht is all but do what ur heart says adn follow ur gut instincts they are usually correct!!

But the times they aren't REALY suck. Been in a few situations where someone I trust asked alot of me and so far all but 2 have turned around and stabbed me in the back. Some times the people don't even know they stabbed you in the back, just happenes because they didn't think it through

Okay that guy sounds like an arss, Please don't take offence. But if he really cared about the girl that he wants to get to gether with then he would respect the fact that she is dating anouther guy and just be her friend for the time being.

Question, are your parents the one's who are behind the whole deal???? And yes it is messed up. And you need to tell your parents to stop being raceist[sp?] Fudge monkeys and deal with who you love. Oh have they met the guy yet or no? Cause that might help maybe

no they have never meet the guy... he is the sweetest and most respecting person you could ever meet in your life...
His mom called me some choice words when she saw that i was white...

My parents say that they are not racist, but i will never believe that. NEVER!

Im truely sorry for you, I can't imagine what it is like to be in a situation like this.
What about his parents did they exept you after those few choice words?

And why will the school call your rents if you get with in talking distance? IS that your parents doing?

yes that is actually OUR parents doing, both his mom and mine....
i asked why his skin color mattered, the only answer i recieved was "it just does"....

all i could do was cry.... she tried to talk bad about him, but everything she said i would cotrodict her, and she was only getting angry at me.

His mom still hates me... she called me a "garden hoe" if you get what im saying here...

He is the only person who accpets me for who i am, not what i look like, because ive been hurt so many times because i end up attracting all of the shallow narrow minded guys....
he is not at all like that...i love him.. i feel like i could just die right now because i cant be aroud him.

They dont want us talking because they think that we might do something "stupid" [if you get what they are talking about]
He already told me that wasnt what he wanted, that he would never hurt me or make me do anything i didnt want to...

My mom refused to let me explain to her what he was like... she told me to just shut up..

Do you know what, this is just me, but next time she says something mean to her I would slap her.....thats me. I coudn't do that to my mom because well Im a guy and that goes against my being (being a guy and all) but they need a wake up call of some sort. Parents are so narrow minded it isn't even funny!

Oh and are you in a public school? Cause if you are they can't stop you from talking to ur guy in the halls and stuff or have thing changed from the time I was in a public school?

yeah, im in public school, but now its like prison to us...
everything is changing so fast nowdays..
trust me.. i cant even keep up with everything, and i have nothing better to do.
My life is a living nightmare.. literally. a got a step dad on crazy meds who has put me up against a wall by my neck before

anyway.... yeah Ahzric [ma B/f] is an angel sent from god and he actually cares if im in good mental health or not..... hes the person i would run to to feel safe.. at least for a little while anyway.. he made me feel like i could hold on.. and make it ... he told me to stay strong.. that they couldnt torture me like that forever.

its okay, but yeah.. mine have been ruining mine for twelve years... both of em.. thought about runnin away so many times was going to do it till me and ma B/F got together... u could say he saved me

a lot of things have crossed my mind.... some not so good.. i decided against them.......

thanx....
i try to stay positive about all things.
just when people around you cut you down it gets hard.

Okay I think Im done with Relationships for a LONG Fing TIME!!! My relationships all end the same. Me wondering what the h*ll I did wrong and still being friends with the girl I went out with. Granted some have had issues like distance and such but it still p*sses me off. I love the girl, try what ever I can to make her happy, H*ll most still call me the sweetest guy EVER but it is never enough. Nothing ever is, Im always the "Best Friend". I end up being the guy who picks up the pieces of my exGL/friend because Im just like that, to nice for my own darn good.
Well it wont surprise me if I end up picking up more pieces here in a few weeks from the arshole they went out with after me. Seems thats all I'm good for, "the Friend who is good enough to run to but never good enough to be with."
I thought this one might be difrent but she turned out the same saddly, still a friend but nothing more.